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Self-image and self-esteem are pretty big things when it comes to sex, and one of our biggest collective hang-ups has to be weight.

No matter what dress size we are, the thought of stripping off and having someone see what we perceive as our wobbly bits - even if there aren't any there - is daunting to say the least.

However, this experience is perhaps even more nerve-wracking for people who know they are plus-size and are okay with this, except for the fact that they don't want to be judged when they meet a new sexual partner.

This is the subject of a new TV show set to air this Friday night (May 4th 2018) entitled Too Fat for Love. It's been made by filmmaker and prominent plus-size activist Emma Tamsin Hill and sees the 22-year-old exploring size - and our attitudes to it in the bedroom.

In the programme, she argues that everyone deserves a full and active sex life and shouldn't be put off looking for romance just because they don't fit the ideal they see on the front of Vogue.

"Fat people like me have no problem actually doing the deed of sex, but often have problems getting naked in front of people," she explained.

According to the Sun, Emma also visits a class run by Athena Mae, self-styled 'goddess of love', aimed at teaching plus-size lovers how to get the most out of sex.

The Athena Mae Body Positive sessions can cost up to £500 for private four-hour couples classes, but prices may be as low as £35 depending on topic and workshop style.

Among other things, Emma is taught how to strategically place pillows to ensure sex will be comfortable for the larger woman; how to improve self-esteem; how to learn BDSM including use of sex toys; and how you don't have to do anything you're not interested in, just because inconsiderate partners might suggest it.

The programme is billed as a 'no-holds-barred look into the world of plus-sized love and sex by asking questions that everyone may be curious about but are too embarrassed to ask'.

Figures from the Organisation for Economic Co-operation and Development show that as many as 63 per cent of UK adults are overweight and, if you think about it, not all of them are going to be abstaining from sex just because of their size.

We think this could be a timely look at an important issue for both women and men and is sure to be well worth a watch.